4 Signs It’s Time To Say Goodbye to Your Parents' Home

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Filipinos are family-oriented. Undoubtedly, they would do everything in their power to provide the best for the family. They have the utmost respect for their parents.

Filial values include courteousness and obedience to the elderly. The most important trait is the unconditional love for each member in the home.

If it’s possible to spend each waking moment with the family, they probably would. Like birds who learn to fly away from their nests, there will come a time when you have to move out and venture into the world.

Your parents treasure you dearly. They want what’s best for you even if that means pushing you to look for affordable homes in a Pampanga house and lot or someplace in the South - a Cebu house for sale. If that’s the case, your parents secretly want you to move out.

Parents are still considerate of their children’s feeling so they won’t directly tell you to look for a place to stay. Instead, they drop hints. Other than their subtlety, you may be going through life changes too that requires you to become independent.

1. Your workplace is an hour away from your folks’ home.

If it takes an hour or more to get to your office, consider getting a place closer to the area. Jobs are stressful enough, so you don’t need to get worked up on traffic and commuting woes. 

2. You can hear them complaining about you.

They casually mention the extra dishes, the fact that you oversleep or you spend most of your time in front of a screen. Some parents make a big deal of little faults and say it to your face. Others talk about them to close relative or amigas because they need advice on how to broach the topic with you. You don’t realize you have become dependent on your parents on a lot of things and they want you to tread on life on your own.

3. You need space.

Your old bedroom can’t fit the stuff you’ve accumulated over the years. Your collection of books are on the floor and desks. Your closet filled to the brim. The worst part, you outgrew your bed.

4. You want privacy.

Your friends or colleagues want sleepover, dinner parties and late night conversations. You can’t host social gatherings without your elders’ permission. There’s a high chance you’ll think twice about ever hosting one because your folks will be around to observe you. You also don’t want to disturb their privacy. Other than that, younger siblings in the house can mess up your plans. You don’t want them to be around to witness your embarrassing moments like being drunk.

5. You are making plans to settle down.

You already proposed, or someone sent a proposal. You and your partner agree and are in the process of planning and making preparations to build a future together. Though your parents are still in the picture, they won’t be your priority anymore. You will have a husband or wife to think of and children to raise. Expanding your family requires space and will force you to step away from your mom and dad’s heavenly abode.


Moving away from your parents doesn’t mean you love them less. The same applies to you. They are pushing you to be better. They want you to learn to stand on your own. Because you are constantly evolving, you work on your career and require space and privacy. Realizing that these are essential to your growth as a person makes it easier pull apart from your comfort zone and recognize that the best person to provide the things you need is you.

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